Episodes

Friday Nov 24, 2023
Friday Nov 24, 2023
Margo Watson and Ann Takasaki are joined by Kathie Horman, LaReita Berky, and Dennis Lifferth to discuss the Model of Powerful Impact and the power of charitable giving.
“Charity, being charitable, is critical to our well being, our soul, who we are as people, and being part of the human race.” - Margo Watson
“I have MS, and I struggle with it, but I’m doing great. And I thought I can give what I can while I still can. And so it’s been a real joy to me… I just love doing it, is what it boils down to.” - Kathie Horman
“When you meet these people who come in with different objectives, some are providing for others and some are picking them (computers) up, and you see the spark of hope and happiness in their lives, it just makes you want to do it again. … And so I’m grateful for this idea, that within each person is this spark of divinity. And if we can see that and help them feel better when they leave, with a little more confidence, it makes this effort well worthwhile.” - Dennis Lifferth
“I know we have a duty. That’s true. We all have a duty to help one another. But there’s more to it than just a duty. There’s the feeling that comes when we’re of service to somebody else.” - Dennis Lifferth
“It takes a lot of people to make a system work, and they all make a very important contribution.” - Dennis Lifferth
“This is an actual part of our family mode. This is what we do. We help. We help where we can help, when we can help, with what we can help with.” - LaReita Berky
“Some people are able to give large donations. Some give small, some just give monthly, and some just give frequent flier miles. I mean, there’s all kinds of ways to donate.” - Margo Watson
“I’ve given a lot of time. And when I developed MS, I could no longer play my violin … so I donated it to a student who didn’t have one. And she’s been so thrilled. … There are definitely ways you can help. Sometimes it’s just a pat on the back or a hug.” - Kathie Horman
“The main body of human beings on this earth are so grateful to be tied to each other through family.” - Ann Takasaki
“When people think, “donation,” the immediate thought is cash, right? Card, cash, check. But there’s so many other types of donations. There’s the in-kind donations, which is what Dennis is doing with the laptops. There’s, for our organization, we receive book donations because our focus is literacy, because we believe that when a woman is empowered and knows how to read, then that changes her life and her family’s trajectory, of what’s going to become of them. You know, reading opens up a world of possibilities.” - LaReita Berky
“Receiving donations for what an organization is needing, not just cash, cash is always appreciated, but for what specifically an organization needs, not just what you think they need, but ask, “What do you need?” That’s one of the greatest things.” - LaReita Berky
“Other ways that people can donate besides the money … is time. Is there something that you can do to help the organization with donating an hour or two a week or more if you are able?” - LaReita Berky
“I think one of the fears people have in donating their time is they don’t feel like they’re qualified, when in fact, the one on one is very simple, just to listen, just to help. Most people are grateful for any attention they may receive. … To volunteer doesn’t take money, doesn’t take thing, but sometimes it’s just your time and your interest in that person.” - Dennis Lifferth
“It combats depression when you see that you can help somebody else. It combats self absorption. It just makes you a better person when you can help somebody else realize their dreams.” - Margo Watson
Margo Watson is the Director of Outreach Marketing and Fundraising for Big Ocean Women. Her background is quite diverse. She has a Masters of Fine Arts Degree in Theatre and a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Communications and Music. Her dynamic talents led her first to critically acclaimed performances in countless Theater and Concert stages around the country as a soprano soloist and lead actress which included musicals, opera, operetta, orchestral works, comedies, movies, commercials and on-camera TV host. These experiences helped prepare her later as a young widow to work in the fields of in-house public relations and marketing for high tech, retail, medical industries and promotion for celebrities, so she could support her young family. Margo has had extensive experience as an on-camera talent, marketing, advertising, public relations-internal and external, public speaking, production, diverse writing for magazines, commercials, press releases, infomercials, books, press kits, speeches and such. She hopes her skills will be useful to help Big Ocean Women spread their mission of empowering women worldwide, through education, training and support, to recognize their divine worth, abilities and capabilities to change their homes, their communities and the world. Margo has six adult children and 9 grandchildren which are the most precious gifts to her. She also loves her dear husband Jay D Blades, her dog Toby and two horses, Noche and Goldie.
Ann Takasaki and her husband, Roman are Japanese Americans with three adopted children, also Japanese Americans. This Japanese heritage is not the most important piece of Ann's identity, but it is valued and preserved. Ann also values faith, immediate and extended family relationships, and friendships. Big Ocean Women provides meaningful and important experiences for all of these. Ann strives to give her time to God's work, and sees Big Ocean Women as an important vehicle to do that work.
Dennis Lifferth is a Co-founder of Applied Technology Foundation a non-profit doing business as TechCharities. He is the Former Managing Director of LDS Welfare and Humanitarian Services of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, President of LDS Charities, and a former secretary to the LDS Presiding Bishopric. He has a PhD in Economics from Iowa State University and is an Assistant Professor at Cornell University. He is married to Margaret R. Lifferth. They are parents of 7 children and 34 grandchildren.
LaReita Berky, Vice President of Operations for Families Mentoring Families, is a wife of an entrepreneur, and mother of 6 sons. She graduated 22 years ago from San Francisco Conservatory of Music with a Bachelors of Music in Cello Performance. She had a private studio, performed as principal cellist with the Utah Valley Symphony, Utah Baroque Ensemble, and was the chair for the Utah Valley String Festival for 17 years. All of that changed when in 2016 she started talking with Becky Rogers about Africa and humanitarian work. LaReita has been to Ghana 9 times (as of 2023), each time taking some family members with her. She recently sustained an irreversible ear injury which altered her life course. LaReita now has a Masters of Social Work. She is credentialed as a CSW and works in a clinical setting as a counselor/therapist to help clients embrace their strengths. Then utilizing various research-based methods, including EMDR, LaReita assists clients in moving through their trauma or other difficult life experiences. Her social work education, training, and hands-on experience bring a unique perspective to Families Mentoring Families to achieve their goals.
Kathie K. Horman was raised in St. Louis, Missouri and is married to Charles H. Horman. They have four children and thirteen grandchildren. Kathie Graduated from University of Utah with a B.A. in Music with an emphasis in Piano Performance, she earned her teaching certificate in elementary education from the University of Utah and is a member of Chi Omega Sorority. Her life has been filled with public service as a president, chairman, board member, leader, or contributing member to over 40 organizations. She is a dedicated supporter of the arts and has performed in various capacities. Beyond the performing arts, she enjoys creating beauty in many mediums, experiencing life through travel and adventure, and reading. She has been honored by many organizations and received many awards including the Hands and Heart Award twice, Certificate of Recognition for Service and Volunteerism from the State of Utah, and the George Washington Medal of Honor from the Freedoms Foundation.

Tuesday Nov 21, 2023
Tuesday Nov 21, 2023
Christy by Catherine Marshall is a historical fiction book that follows the fictional character of Christy who decides to serve as a teacher in the Appalachian Mountains. It was based partially on reality and the experiences of Catherine Marshall’s mother. She goes thinking she has so much to give and ends up finding there is so much more for her to learn.
“I love how she goes in with the intent of, ‘I’m going to help these people,’ and ultimately, it’s them helping her.” - Dana Robb
“It’s one of the reasons I love this book because it’s a really good look, and a really honest look at what richness and abundance people have within themselves and within their communities that people from the outside maybe don’t recognize because it doesn’t look like the richness and abundance that they have in their lives, and so because it’s different and it’s dissimilar, they assume that somehow these people are lacking, and that’s not always the case, and it’s not always true.” - Shelli Spotts
“Our journey is not always going to look like everyone else’s.” - Shelli Spotts
“I love that it kind of tells you a little bit of the kind of feelings you might have with that internal compass, and that once she decides to go with it, she never wavers in that decision.” - Monica Anderson
“I really see this book as a journey that she goes on to connect with her inner compass, to connect with God.” - Dana Robb
“We have to allow love to guide our reactions to people, and then we don’t see them as problems, and we don’t see them as projects, and we don’t see them as obstacles to be overcome, but we see them as they are: human!” - Shelli Spotts
“I love thinking about the multiplying power of love.” - Dana Robb
“And that’s going to happen when you’re inviting God into your life more, you’re listening to your inner compass more, your love is growing, when you’ve got Him on your side, that power is immense.” - Monica Anderson
“I just love this idea that something very simple can make a huge difference.” - Shelli Spotts
“Frequently, what a community needs is not someone coming in from without to change them, but help to change themselves.” - Shelli Spotts
“This assumption that you’re the one that has something to teach and that you don’t have anything to learn, I think devalues great stores of wisdom and knowledge that other people have. We do have to go into situations where we’re open to reciprocation, and we’re open to learning just as much as we’re hoping to teach others.” - Shelli Spotts
“Every interaction we have can be a type of ministry, and especially this theme of love. We can minister with love, we can minister love.” - Shelli Spotts
“By the end of the book, it just changed me. I felt like I walked there … seeing those delightful moments … I couldn’t help but be affected by it.” - Monica Anderson
“I realized, by reading this book, that my imperfect effort is enough. What I have to offer, it’s going to be enough, and that it’s better to fumble on my way through, then to not offer anything at all.” - Dana Robb
Monica Anderson married her high school sweetheart. They have 3 children together, girl, boy, girl. She loves to spend time with her family and friends. She also loves working with animals, especially dogs and cats. She is continuing her education to gain more wisdom and knowledge so she can share that with others through teaching, mentoring, or discussions. This last passion is actually a new found love when she decided to invest in herself and took a Mission Driven Mom class. Monica is naturally happy, positive, courteous, and helpful. That being said, she also suffered greatly from victim mentality. She learned about many great tools to help her to be a better person for herself and those around her. Ironically enough one of the books required for the course was Christy. She fell in love with this book!
Whenever Dana Robb is presented with the opportunity for adventure, she is all in. Currently, this includes riding the local mountain biking trails with her husband, canyoneering, and climbing the hills of southern Utah. She loves to learn and explore with her six kids. She is drawn to the opportunities being involved with Big Ocean Women provides. Dana loves connecting to a global sisterhood where women’s issues are being addressed through reframing and an abundance mindset.
Shelli Spotts is an advocacy writer and creative writing teacher. She loves to spend time with her husband (usually in the garden) and their four almost adult children. She also loves to sew, to read, to write, and to drag her family outside to look at the sky. Shelli is passionate about poetry, Broadway show tunes, and telling stories—of ourselves, our families, and our communities.

Tuesday Nov 14, 2023
Tuesday Nov 14, 2023
Margo Watson, Debbie Hart, and Dr. Tabitha Campbell discuss the tenet, “We seek after knowledge and wisdom.”
“Education is power, and it also helps us to overcome fear. Oftentimes we have fear of the unknown. So the more that we know, the better prepared we are.” - Debbie Hart
“You have to take care of your physical health in order to take care of your mental health and vice versa.” - Dr. Tabitha Campbell
“Education is truly a springboard for opportunity.” - Margo Watson
“Wisdom comes with experience. And as you have more experience, you gain wisdom. You can read about something and learn about it, but until you kind of experience it and go through it in your life, then I think that becomes wisdom. When you have knowledge, it leads to making choices that take you down a path in your life, often brings you personal success and personal fulfillment, and joy and happiness. With that, you gain the wisdom of those years of doing the things that you learned to do.” - Debbie Hart
“There is an infusion of problem solving that comes with self reliance.” - Margo Watson
“I think it is important that women recognize that you don’t necessarily have to go to University to get an education. There are great programs and technical programs and other ways to gain education and to gain professional ability that you might use. … Look around and see where the opportunities are … to get an education.” - Debbie Hart
“Really find something that you may be passionate about, it may be something completely out of left field, but there is a way that you can gain knowledge and gain power and wisdom through that passion.” - Dr. Tabitha Campbell
Debbie Hart is a devoted wife, mother and grandmother. She and her husband Keven have been married 47 years. They have 5 adult children plus their spouses and 11 grandchildren. She and her husband recently retired and are enjoying traveling to many countries around the world. They love seeing the UNESCO World Heritage sites and learning about world history, civilizations and religions. They enjoy meeting people of other cultures and diverse backgrounds. They feel like travel is another form of education and personal development. Debbie says that she has discovered that most people around the world have many of the same desires to find joy and happiness in their families.
Dr. Tabitha Campbell received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Kansas City Medical and Biosciences School. She currently is working on her post doctoral education in Neuropsychology, testing the behaviors that result following traumas. Tabitha is an avid horse rider, outdoor enthusiast and traveler. She and her husband Jake are parents to their darling 2 1/2 year old son Matix.
Margo Watson is the Marketing Director for Big Ocean Women. With a Bachelors in Communications and a Masters in Fine Arts/Media, Margo hopes to expand this new division of Big Ocean Women with creative, resourceful individuals, coordinating with the Communications Division to give BOW more exposure. A few goals include finding raving fans in businesses, media, fundraising donors that share similar values that society is better when safeguarding Faith, Family and Motherhood and empowering Men to protect those entities. Margo has worked for 35 years in Marketing, Public Relations, Advertising, Politics, Theater, Television, Production, Real Estate and the Arts. She is a former soloist with national orchestras and musicals, pageant judge, and a former Mrs. Utah. She has five talented, married children and nine irresistible grandchildren. She passionately wants them to have a Great America like she had so volunteers in political outreach as well. Her husband Jay D. Blades is a constant support!

Friday Oct 13, 2023
Friday Oct 13, 2023
Dana Robb, Shannon Russell, Andrea Garn, and Grace Raje discuss the tenet, “We recognize and follow our internal compass to speak and act with integrity.”
“One thing is certain, [this internal compass] is like your own personal language, if you will. The more you learn to understand this language, speak it, and more importantly, act upon it, the better your choices become.” – Shannon Russell
“Choosing to listen to your inner compass will help you to heal, and it will allow you to feel the most beautiful joy that there is to offer in your life.” – Shannon Russell
“That’s what we want most, isn’t it? As moms is that our kids find their compass and find their connection with love.” –Andrea Garn
“As we’re talking about finding your inner compass and learning to listen to it, I thought it would be really important to bring that up for any listeners to maybe be able to identify times of dissociation in their life, especially if they’ve been through some trauma.” – Grace Raje
“Grace and I felt like this really goes along with finding your inner compass because it’s hard to listen to what your body is telling you when there’s dissociation, when there’s trauma. It takes more practice and more love to get those answers.” – Andrea Garn
“In eating disorder recovery, even just with like basic anxiety management, understanding my body’s cues has been one of the most helpful things.” – Grace Raje
“Everything is a system. You know, the universe is a system, our society, our family, and inside of ourselves. We are the manager of our heart and of our emotions, and of the parts of us that are holding onto the trauma and the parts that are protecting ourselves by holding on in different ways. And so as we find that inner compass, we’re able to create safety in all of the systems and creating safety in our internal system, can create it in our family and in the world.” – Andrea Garn
“Sometimes we look to external sources, and those are important when you’re trying to gather tools, right? But sometimes we put so much into the external sources that we deplete our own empowerment… we have that within us to heal.” – Shannon Russell
“It’s really the way we can heal. Nothing outside of us can do it for us. It’s our work to do, and that’s very empowering and beautiful.” – Andrea Garn
“Take deep breaths, take time in nature, find out what things help you feel calm and help you feel better and feed you just like you would find out what your child likes or what your plant needs to grow” – Andrea Garn
“When you take a walk to sort something out, that is literally therapy, because the movement of your feet back and forth is helping your mind untangle and process emotions and thoughts and feelings.” – Andrea Garn
“As you listen to your inner compass and take action on that, the voices will get stronger. You’ll start to notice and pay attention to when you’re feeling calm, when you’re feeling connected to nature, connected to your family, connected to your higher power.” – Andrea Garn
“Surrounding yourself with people who are intentionally trying to tap into that inner compass is a huge support” – Grace Raje
Andrea Garn, LCSW, has been a supporter and participant in Big Ocean Women for 7 years. She is trained in trauma and EMDR therapy, Internal Family Systems, and specializes in supporting periods of transition in hospice care and as a licensed birth doula. She believes finding our inner compass is the way to heal ourselves, our families, and the world.
Grace Raje has been a leader with Big Ocean Women for 7 years occupying various roles along the way. She is passionate about the global sisterhood Big Ocean Women has built and loves nothing more than connecting with new women wherever and whenever she can.
Whenever presented with the opportunity for adventure, Dana is all in. Currently, this includes riding the local mountain biking trails with her husband, canyoneering, and climbing the hills of southern Utah. She loves to learn and explore with her six kids. She is drawn to the opportunities being involved with Big Ocean Women provides. Dana loves connecting to a global sisterhood where women’s issues are being addressed through reframing and an abundance mindset.

Thursday Oct 05, 2023
Thursday Oct 05, 2023
We seek after wisdom, and we believe wisdom is the highest possible form of knowledge.
Brittany Homer from the Raising Today’s Kids podcast and Project Stand.
“I remember when I was young, realizing the importance of giving children a good foundation, how if they are given a good foundation in their life, then there is no limit to their potential.” – Brittany Homer
“Anytime you try to change the economy of God, you’re doing it wrong.” – Haitian guide as remembered by Brittany Homer
“In order to help children be successful, in order to help them reach their potential, parents have to do their job, and parents have to know how to do their job, and parents have to feel empowered.” – Brittany Homer
“If I’m going to prevent human trafficking, I’ve got to address pornography exposure and help people prevent that or address that.” – Brittany Homer
“We felt like, in order to keep kids safe from all of these forms of sexual exploitation that are out there, we’ve got to help them be safe online.” – Brittany Homer
“Really the most important factor is that parent-child relationship.” – Brittany Homer
Some organizations that Brittany mentioned include the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, Fight the New Drug, White Ribbon Week, Defend Young Minds, The Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation, the Utah Coalition Against Pornography, Utah PTA Digital Wellness Committee, and Safeguard Alliance.
“I love how we are all in the business of trying to help children and strengthen families.” – Brittany Homer
“I feel like God is at the core of everything that I do, and so I find a lot of strength in Him, and I feel like sometimes He guides me to spend some time learning, and sometimes He guides me to just slow down and focus on the people.” – Brittany Homer
“Too much screen time can be related to sleep. Problems, aggression, desensitization, nightmares, fear, impulsivity, depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, low attention span. I mean, there's so, so many negative things that are associated with too much screen time.” – Brittany Homer
“The more time someone uses social media, the more likely they are to be depressed. Social media increases the risk of bullying, clique forming, sexual experimentation. It leads to privacy issues, Internet addiction, sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression.” – Brittany Homer
“Cyberbullying – One in four children has experienced cyberbullying, and cyberbullying victims are two times more likely to commit suicide.” – Brittany Homer
“This statistic blew my mind: 27% of all video content online is pornographic.” – Brittany Homer
“I’m very hopeful, because I know that children can be resilient.” – Brittany Homer
“I believe that an educated parent can just be so powerful in the lives of their kids and protecting them.” – Brittany Homer
“I’m just so glad that you followed up those statistics with hope and that idea that if we can teach them to use their screen time wisely, then there’s nothing that they can’t do. I think that’s really encouraging and exciting. It puts a lot of pressure on us parents, but it’s exciting. We can become educated.” – Dana Robb
Healthy Technology Path
“Take ‘Just a SEC’ – Stop, Evaluate, Choose – whenever you’re going to post or search or share something online.” – Brittany Homer
“I love your approach to questions. It’s not accusatory. It’s not assuming that they’re doing something bad or dumb, and you’re allowing them to collaborate with you and to share their inner selves. And I love the section where you focus on values and helping them discover their own. I think, as parents so many times we assume that we’re going to instill in them our values and what’s important to us is going to be important to them, but it’s so much more powerful to discover where they’re at and help them decide on their values, and there’s such a range of good values out there. We don’t have to have all the same things.” – Dana Robb
“Parents are the most important protective factor, and you are qualified to be the parent of your children. And not only are you qualified, but you're qualified today right now.” – Brittany Homer
“Wisdom is achieved by uniting our internal compass or conscience with our life experiences.” – Dana Robb
Brittany has always believed that with the right tools and support there is no limit to a child’s potential. She has a master's degree in Family and Human Development, is a Certified Family Life Educator, and is creator and host of the podcast, Raising Today’s Kids where she shares her deep belief in the power of parents. Brittany has also served as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA), Sexual Assault (SANE) Advocate, and is actively involved in the Safeguard Alliance (a task force of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation).
Brittany has a bucket list the length of Montana. She would love to experience every adventure from learning to yodel, to running an ultra-marathon, to seeing the northern lights from a hot spring. She loves to travel and integrate with the locals wherever she goes and has had life-changing conversations in cultures from Israel to Haiti. The experience that trumps all others though, is that of being a mother. She and her husband feel so blessed to have four children who inspire her to fight to protect all children.

Thursday Oct 05, 2023
Thursday Oct 05, 2023
Dana Robb and Becky Rogers discussing the tenet, “We seek after knowledge and wisdom.”
Families Mentoring Families has educational tracks for teaching family life skills, basic literacy, academic, vocational skills, leadership, and agriculture. They have 110 literacy centers across Africa, in Ghana, Uganda, Kenya, and Rwanda, and are working to continue to expand. They also have an aftercare program for girls who have been trafficked as well as an education program to help girls avoid the lure of out of country work as domestic servants that actually end up being trafficked.
“When you’re educating the current generation, they have that hope that they can make their situation better where they are at, rather than this false hope that something out there that’s enticing them is going to solve their problem.” - Dana Robb
“[Education] doesn’t just change that person’s life, it changes the trajectory of their entire family for all the generations to come.” - Becky Rogers
“We walked away with nothing, and we showed up here with nothing. Nothing. No money, not knowing what we were going to do. And so if I told you about the miracles, like the growth in our faith — I don't even have words for it, I can’t even describe it except to share stories of the ways that God has come through and provided.” - Becky Rogers
“Our perspective in that way, and what else is possible if you don’t kill it yourself, let God do it, and just watch and show up, that is probably the biggest thing, that’s the biggest way that I’ve grown.” - Becky Rogers
“God tailors things for us, and when He needs us to learn something, He’s got a plan for it.” - Dana Robb
“At the end of the day, when we sit with women from all different cultures, we want the same things. We want a better life for our families and our children. We’ll do whatever it takes to accomplish that, we’re heavily invested in our families, but the powers that be that make policy don’t value those same things. And so it’s a very crucial and important part of Families Mentoring Families that we share with Big Ocean Women in gathering. . . gathering the women to support each other and to create our own voice around the things that we really and truly value.” - Becky Rogers
“At the end of the day, we’re all sisters from all different cultures, and there are so many things that we have in common and so many values that we hold the same that we should gather and strengthen each other around that.” - Becky Rogers
“Don’t be afraid. Fear takes a lot forms and it stops us from doing lots of things because when we second guess our own abilities we have so many voices trying to tell us we’re not good enough or we can’t fit in one more thing, but if you feel called, God has a purpose and a passion and a mission for you, don’t put it off another minute because you have no idea what you’re missing out on all of the ways that you’ll be blessed, not just for you personally, but also in your family. The blessings that will come to you from following those inspirations and getting good at that practice of promptings, it’s beyond your wildest imagination. So don’t be afraid. Go. Jump in. Don’t spend another minute second guessing yourself or second guessing the promptings. If that’s what you’re feeling called to do, do it.” - Becky Rogers
Becky Rogers is a wife and mother of 10 who is passionate about families and education. She is the Founder of Families Mentoring Families, as well as her own personal development company, LIFEstory Transformation. In 2014, she received a u201ccall of the heartu201d to become involved with humanitarian work in Africa. Though it was completely impossible at the time, she followed that inspiration and FMF was born. She is continually in awe of the miracles that show up to move FMF forward, and she is deeply grateful for the love and support of her family & friends who are the backbone of this work.
Whenever presented with the opportunity for adventure, Dana Robb is all in. Currently, this includes riding the local mountain biking trails with her husband, canyoneering, and climbing the hills of southern Utah. She loves to learn and explore with her six kids. She is drawn to the opportunities being involved with Big Ocean Women provides. Dana loves connecting to a global sisterhood where women’s issues are being addressed through reframing and an abundance mindset.

Monday Sep 18, 2023
Monday Sep 18, 2023
We greatly value the unique and contributing role of families.
Margo Watson is joined by Gloria Boberg and Dr. Tres Tanner.
“Families are the unit in society which is especially comprised of a man and a woman who are husband and wife who are bonded so that they can meet each other's physical and emotional needs as well as to, among other things, have the opportunity to procreate and bring children into the world so they can then care for those children” - Dr. Tanner
“The family is the stability of life. When you count on one another, and you form the foundation to build upon and to trust each other and learn from each other. If someone tries to take that apart, to me it’s like they’re trying to pull the power from the family unit.” - Gloria Boberg
“When there is a family nucleus, there’s always a strong foundation when we can support each other, love each other unconditionally. We, then have, love and respect for each other. Through communication, we learn how to make a healthy family.” - Gloria Boberg
“When a woman goes through nine months of carrying that fetus in her uterus and then birthing that child, that involves a high level of sacrifice and pain and commitment, which leads to the kind of motivation that [other people] will never have the same level of commitment as has a mother.” - Dr. Tanner
“One of the cool things about families is that we learn from one another. Parents learn from children as well as children from parents. So it’s a really cool unit of society, where you live together, and you learn together, and you reinforce each other with that unconditional love.” - Dr. Tanner
“You have to understand that a human being is not disposable. You don’t throw anyone away.” - Gloria Boberg
“One of the central reasons why there are so many problems is because of selfishness, and or, related to that is we live in a very much of an individually focused society and so it’s not natural… for people to think in larger terms, and we need to do that.” - Dr. Tanner
“People can and do change, are capable of turning things around… so you need to make sure you always stay focused on the hope that people are capable of learning how to be really strong and effective people, because what happens is once they start to do that, it becomes self reinforcing and they love it and they want to learn more and more and do more things to stay that way.” - Dr Tanner
“For people that have no family, or they have dysfunctional families, that does not mean that you can’t be healthy and build your own family, and that’s really important to remember.” - Gloria Boberg
“Part of building yourself up is to teach and guide other people to help them learn. We can share these experiences by what we know.” - Gloria Boberg
“Going back again to the family unit, it is so critical in the development of individuals, but also in the development of the community around us” - Margo Watson
“There are lots of people in this world that are quite alone, and they don’t have these family networks that they can depend upon, nevertheless, even a person, or a single parent, trying to do their very best to work with a child, without any other family support, can learn to become a very effective family unit, just those two of them, and what happens is when they develop that, and the great feeling of relief and satisfaction that comes, because they’re applying correct principles with one another, and they’re getting tremendous satisfaction from that.” - Dr Tanner
“Anyone out there can realize there are wonderful things that they can do to make their lives better and really find great satisfaction even if they haven’t had the advantage of having had an initial exposure to that.” - Dr. Tanner
“The husband-wife relationship is really the core relationship in life, because if that is going well, they’re in a much better position, that couple, to do a much more effective job of parenting.” - Dr. Tanner
Dr. Tanner’s 6 basic practices for a thriving relationship:
- Share
- care
- Connect
- Confront
- Resolve
- Grow
“Learn how to talk and have respect for each other.” - Gloria Boberg
“Families have to understand there’s give and take, and you have to learn, and you have to learn ways to communicate. I think having your own set of boundaries is important. You also have to understand the perspective of where other people are coming from.” - Gloria Boberg
“There is nothing that can even compare with the kind of benefit to society that happens when you are committed to your children as a mother or your spouse and you can just set the tone of having happy relationships functional people, there’s nothing quite like that and you can feel proud and grateful for the opportunity you have.” - Dr. Tanner
“Look for the good, because there’s a lot of it!” - Dr. Tanner
Dr. Tres Tanner has dedicated his career to strengthening families. He has helped thousands of individuals, couples and families in over 25 years’ experience as a Professional Relationships–Life Coach / Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He also has over 25 years’ experience teaching and training people in Seminars, Workshops, Professional Speaking Engagements, and in undergraduate and graduate University Classes, Marriage Retreats, etc.
Margo Watson is the Director of Outreach Marketing and Fundraising for Big Ocean Women. She has a Masters of Fine Arts Degree in Theatre and a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Communications and Music. Her dynamic talents led her first to critically acclaimed performances in countless Theater and Concert stages around the country as a soprano soloist and lead actress which included musicals, opera, operetta, orchestral works, comedies, movies, commercials and on-camera TV host. These experiences helped prepare her later as a young widow to work in the fields of in-house public relations and marketing for high tech, retail, medical industries and promotion for celebrities, so she could support her young family. Margo has had extensive experience as an on-camera talent, marketing, advertising, public relations-internal and external, public speaking, production, diverse writing for magazines, commercials, press releases, infomercials, books, press kits, speeches and such. She hopes her skills will be useful to help Big Ocean Women spread their mission of empowering women worldwide. She has six adult children and 9 grandchildren which are the most precious gifts to her.

Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
2.19 A Discussion with Kimberly Ells on The Invincible Family
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
A discussion with Kimberly Ells The Invincible Family
“Sexualizing children is not ok on any level, and the family destructive elements that are tied into the movement to sexualize children is especially concerning.” – Kimberly Ells
“The family… is the place of greatest power.” – Kimberly Ells
“The family is powerful for many reasons… When new people are born, they’re born as babies, they’re born to mothers in cooperation with fathers, and that matters a lot because then it is the mother and the father who get to impress upon the child what is true and what is right and what is not true and what is not right, and those lessons that are learned in the earliest days of life are crucial and they tend to matter for the rest of a person’s life.” – Kimberly Ells
“The task of loving and raising humanity has been given first and foremost, on purpose I believe, to mothers and fathers.” – Kimberly Ells
“The fact is babies are born to mothers, and mothers are women, and that puts women in a prime position of power and influence.” – Kimberly Ells
“When we cease to recognize that people are either male or female, which they inherently are, then it becomes difficult to recognize any realities that are based on maleness or femaleness which includes motherhood and fatherhood, because being a mother is a sex specific designation; being a father is a sex specific designation, so if sex specific designations don’t matter anymore, how are you going to legally define, first, and then defend motherhood, fatherhood and parental rights?” – Kimberly Ells
“I think if women are really introspective that there is a lot of meaning and purpose in family life.” – Carolina Allen
“Families are meant to be permanent.” – Kimberly Ells
“The solution to women’s empowerment is to see that the family unit is that basic building block and to hold onto it as a society, and women have a central role in that, and we have a huge bargaining power, in a way, in how we want to be treated within the family context, and then socially that influence will impact socially and women will have a much better situation all over the world once we can elevate the matriarchy, once we can elevate the status of motherhood.” – Carolina Allen
“The state cannot, and never will, care about a child in the way that a mother and father do.” – Kimberly Ells
“Having the family is the best way of being able to ensure that children are going to learn what they need to be their best capable selves.” – Dana Robb
“There is very little nobility in doing right because you’re forced to… but there is nobility in greatness, in learning what is right and what is wrong and choosing the right way, choosing the good, the noble.” – Kimberly Ells
“It seems very core and very important that people belong to each other.” – Kimberly Ells
“There has to be middle ground solutions that protect our children and nurture them in responsible technology use.” – Kimberly Ells
“When we hand our children a phone, we’re handing them the device to orient them to somewhere other than us, and that’s kind of the core of the problem.” – Kimberly Ells
Kimberly Ells Substack – “We can be aware of global threats but still live joyfully in our families today.”

Friday Sep 01, 2023
Friday Sep 01, 2023
Carolina Allen and Susan Roylance discussing standing up for the family.
“The family is that cellular level of society. And if we don’t preserve it, if we don’t look favorably upon it, it’s really hard to move forward in every aspect of society, and so it’s really critical that we talk about it in Big Ocean Women. It is central to who we are.” - Carolina Allen
“That’s kind of been the thing that I contributed or tried to contribute, is bringing together the good language (in UN and Conference documents) and getting into the hands of the people who would do things about it.” - Susan Roylance
“I got so tired of talking about poverty and doing nothing, that actually, when I finished the negotiating guide in 2000, I said, ‘Ok, guys, you’ve got this. I’m going to try and do something about poverty, ’ and that’s when my husband and I went to Africa.” - Susan Roylance
“I thought that this is something that is really important to share with others: The feminization of poverty: what happens when fathers aren’t present and aren’t providing for their families in a way that supports the family. It turns into the feminization of poverty where it’s women led households carrying the burden of everything on their shoulders, and we see this alot in the world.” - Carolina Allen
“I think that it’s really important if we’re even going to begin talking about poverty, and the feminization of poverty, we talk about the second half of our population which is men and fathers.” - Carolina Allen
“It’s such a critical point to make that men are part of the solution as well: that men and women working together for the benefit of their children and their future posterity, how everyone has some kind of a contributing role, that they need to be present, that they need to be engaged, that they need to be aware that their absence is really felt, not just at the very local level, but at a national and international level what happens when the family unit breaks down.”
- Carolina Allen
“There’s so much scientific research that shows that an intact family is the best thing for a child! There are so many measurements that show that the child does better if they are in a home with their biological parents, their father and their mother, and I think that because of the whole feminist movement we have devalued the value of fathers, and fathers are critical to a functioning family. If you care about poverty at all, fathers are the solution. We need to have fathers involved in helping to provide.” - Susan Roylance
“I think as pro-family people we need to be more armed with scientific information that shows, just ample data to show that without the biological mother and father in the family, the children are not going to receive the kind of help they need in their growing up process.” - Susan Roylance
“I see the value and the presence of good men in the lives of their children, and them striving to be good partners and husbands, and I think that is such a beautiful thing to witness generationally, that little boys can look up to their fathers and to see the things that they’re doing well, and the things that they can then improve on into the future, and hopefully society just improves generation upon generation.” - Carolina Allen
“The family unit…as a functioning unit that is healthy and thriving, it is that protective layer that preserves free will, that preserves individuality, that preserves the innate dignity of children in their wholeness, and it can grow them into their most healthy self.” - Carolina Allen
“What else do we have? It’s worth saving! The family unit is worth saving, it’s worth investing in, it’s worth talking about.” - Carolina Allen
“Creating human civilizations is the greatest power that exists. It’s all centered around that, and we hold that power, and I don’t think that very many women stop and recognize the depth and the magnitude of our power.” - Carolina Allen
“As mothers, when we fully embrace our motherhood, we get to influence that life, we get to pass along our values and our way of looking at the world… And if we do that jointly, yoked to a partner, a husband, a father that equally values our contribution, and that we can really value theirs, we’ve got something impenetrable.” - Carolina Allen
“I think that when we give each other grace and really try to listen, that there are many lived experiences that testify to the things that you’re saying, that you’ve seen, that you’ve been involved in that it adds a whole other level of expertise that is worth our while to listen to.”
- Carolina Allen
“I think that it is really important that we’re positive… My motto is, when I go to the UN, that I want to be a light on the hill… we need to be for something. We’re mothers of boys as well as girls, and we have a real impact on raising the boys of the future. That whole idea that we need to be opposed to all of these things that are happening isn’t going to get us anywhere. We need to be promoting the good things and we need to be an example.” - Susan Roylance
“As individuals, as human beings, we have God given gifts, talents, capacities, inclinations, skills,... whatever that is, it comes from within, and when we’re able to fulfill that to bless other people, and the people that we can have the most impact with is in our families, and we all belong to a family, and when we can use those gifts and talents to bless others, then we find more meaning and purpose in life, and our leadership capacity grows, and our ability to add upon other gifts and talents, it amplifies and grows and the meaning and the purpose grows and so it becomes this beautiful feedback loop that the more you give, the more you receive!” - Carolina Allen
“I learned leadership through motherhood.” - Carolina Allen
“There is true partnership in creating a family.” - Carolina Allen
“No family is perfect, but truly, we shouldn’t give up on families, we shouldn’t give up on our families. We should always be seeking together with divinity in our lives how we can improve upon and strengthen the families that we have.” - Carolina Allen
“If you don’t focus on your family, then you’re likely to have problems. Families are fragile, they are also the greatest thing that can possibly happen to help us to be able to be a strong society, a strong nation, a strong world. That’s the most important thing we can do, and as we recognize that and work towards it, that will make all the difference.” - Susan Roylance
2.18

Thursday Jul 20, 2023
Thursday Jul 20, 2023
Native American Fatherhood & Families Association (NAFFA) began in 2002 with just one father and the mission of bringing men back to strengthening their families. Since then, NAFFA has successfully impacted thousands of lives and families.
Listen as Carolina and NAFFA Founder, Al Pooley, take an in-depth look at the challenges that fathers and families face, and the heart of the solution based on NAFFA’s great success!